The gamer was exposed to insulting comments in the game.

What is Flaming?

Flaming is displaying hostility towards other players in a game by insulting, swearing, or using otherwise offensive language towards them.

Tips For conversation about Flaming 

Age 6-9

• Ask whether they experienced harmful comments. Find out what was said and whether they were upset by it.
• Explain some of the reasons other kids might engage in trash-talking:
  • They may not be thinking about the impact of their words on others.
  • They may put others down to feel better about themselves.
  • They may be getting overly stressed by the game, which can lead to bad choices.
• Help the gamer to think through the culture of the games they play. If there’s a lot of upsetting trash talk, ask them to consider whether this game is more fun or more frustrating! Maybe there’s a different game that’s a better fit for them.
• You can suggest ignoring and stopping playing that specific game. When flaming is in full force, it is better to leave the game.

Age 10-12

• Inform the gamer that Kidas alerted you about trash talk in the game.
• Explain that you know kids their age are using trash talk, but it is better to ignore this type of behavior, mute the gamers, or play with another group of gamers.
• Let them know that they can answer the toxic gamer and ask them to use respectful words.
• If the game is too violent, encourage them to switch to another game. 

Age 13-18

You can say: “When you encounter trash talk directed at you, it can feel frustrating. Remember, responding with negativity only fuels the fire and doesn’t help the situation. Instead, focus on your game and try to rise above it showing that you are better than the insults. By ignoring the trash talk or reporting it, you can help create a more respectful gaming community for everyone.”