The Use of Toxic Gaming Behavior: Hate Speech

The gamer used hate speech against other gamers.

Recommendations:

Encourage the gamer to speak respectfully to others. You can say: “When we play games, it’s always best to use kind words so everyone has fun. How about we try saying something nice to our teammates, like Good job or Nice try! It can make the game feel even better!“
Understanding Hate Speech: Kids in this age group might use inappropriate language without understanding its impact. Explain that such language is considered toxic and can harm others. You can say: “You know, sometimes players might use words that are not nice, like calling others names. Those words are called toxic language. Have you heard of that before? It is using words that are upsetting to us If we use those words, it can make others feel sad, and they might not want to play with us anymore. So, let’s keep it kind!”
Let them know that other players may report them, which could lead to their removal from the game.

Emphasize the importance of respectful communication. Say something like: “When we’re in the middle of a game, sometimes our words can slip out fast. That is why we have to be careful, words are powerful. They can either encourage others or make them feel down. So if we are angry, maybe we can take a deep breath and think, how can I say this without making anyone feel bad?’”
Remind them they can be reported by another gamer: “Besides being removed from the game, it’s also just not okay to make others feel less than us. It’s important to stay respectful, so everyone enjoys the game without feeling put down.”
Encourage them to use respectful words, even if the gaming is heated.
Teach them that using harmful language to belittle others or assert power isn’t acceptable, even if they feel frustrated or angry.
Explain that hate speech can be considered harassment, and in certain cases, even a crime. “If we use language that is hateful or threatening, it’s not just hurtful, it could even lead to trouble outside of the game. Let’s make sure we are not only having fun but also keeping things positive and safe for everyone.”

“Hey gamers! We know that sometimes intense games can bring out toxic language, and as teens, you might hear or use harsh words. Remember, keeping the gaming environment positive makes it more fun for everyone. When others use toxic language, you don’t have to match their language. Showing respect and staying cool is a true power move. By focusing on the game, you can set a great example and make the gaming fun and friendly”.

For further guidance, refer to this article on helping teens handle hate speech online: Washington Post article on recognizing hate speech.